What Do I No Longer Want?
A practical guide to the Anti-Goal Method: eight pages of reflection to help you notice what you no longer want to leave unchanged.
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Reflections on life transitions, choices, inner resistance and finding your way back to yourself.
Why Do Changes Feel Frightening Even When Life as It Is No Longer Works?
Sometimes we stay in familiar circumstances even when they no longer suit us. This article explores why change can feel difficult and how to begin without making drastic decisions.
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Read the original articleWhy Do We Keep Pursuing a Goal We No Longer Need?
It can be difficult to let go of a long-held ambition, even after we have outgrown it. Learn to notice when a goal no longer reflects who you are today.
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Read the original articleThe Anti-Goal Method: When You No Longer Want to Live by “I Must”
An introduction to the idea behind the Anti-Goal Method: instead of adding more demands, begin by noticing what you no longer want to continue and what might be changed.
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Read the original articleWhy Am I Doing Nothing?
When you feel stuck, pushing yourself harder may not be the most helpful response. Explore how to approach yourself with less pressure and choose one small supportive action.
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Read the original articleI’m Over 40. Why Does Life Feel So Difficult?
A reflection on the feelings people may find hard to say aloud: exhaustion, losing touch with yourself, fear and the search for new meaning after 40.
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Read the original articleWhy Am I Always Tired, Even After Resting?
Rest does not always bring back our energy. This article considers questions to ask yourself when tiredness has become a familiar part of everyday life.
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Read the original articleWhy Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?
Many people are used to coping alone, even when their strength is running low. Reflect on what makes asking for help difficult and why support matters.
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Read the original articleWhy Is It So Hard to Say No?
Sometimes guilt feels stronger than our own needs. Explore why refusing can be difficult and how to gradually make room for your own limits and wishes.
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Read the original articleWhy Have I Stopped Feeling Joy?
Even when life looks fine from the outside, joy can feel distant. Consider how fatigue, inner tension and constantly living for others can affect our sense of being alive.
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Read the original articleWhy Do I Keep Putting My Life Off Until Later?
Waiting for the right moment can keep our own lives on hold. This article explores how to start making room for yourself, one small step at a time.
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Read the original articleWhy Do I Feel That Something Is Wrong with Me?
Inner demands and old rules can make us feel as if we are somehow not good enough. Learn to notice these patterns and recognise how you are changing.
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Read the original articleHow Can You Tell You’re No Longer Living Your Own Life?
Even a life that looks successful can leave you feeling that there is too little room for you in it. Consider where to begin when you want to reconnect with your own needs.
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Read the original articleWhy Does Someone Else’s Success Drain Your Energy?
Comparing ourselves with others can leave us feeling behind. This article explores how to return to your own pace and recognise that your path does not have to look like anyone else’s.
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