Zulfiya Islamova (Balgimbayeva), psychologist and coach

PhD · ICF-trained coach · Creator of the Anti-Goal School

Support through life transitions — with more clarity and less pressure

Does your old way of living no longer feel right, while the next step is still unclear?

Begin by noticing what you no longer want to continue. This can help you understand what needs attention and choose one realistic next step.

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For women navigating change

When familiar roles, goals or patterns no longer work, but a new direction has not yet taken shape.

A search for meaning

When life may look fine from the outside, but energy or clarity feels out of reach.

A period of transition

Changes in life stage, work, relationships, status or sense of self.

Feeling stuck

When a goal matters to you, yet taking action keeps getting postponed.

The Anti-Goal Method

Sometimes the difficulty is not a lack of willpower. The harder we try to force ourselves, the more tension, fatigue and a sense of being stuck may grow.

The Anti-Goal Method invites you to notice a recurring pattern — an “inner loop” — and explore what you no longer want to maintain. From there, you can look for a small action that feels possible now.

The aim is not to give up on goals or dreams. It is to make room for a more honest understanding of yourself and your next step.

Feeling stuck

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Pressure on yourself

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Recognising a recurring pattern

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The Anti-Goal Method

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One small, realistic action

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More clarity and movement

Open the Anti-Goal practice tool

What our work can help you explore

Clarity

Understand more clearly what is happening and what matters to you.

Inner support

Explore ways to reduce self-pressure and respond to yourself with greater steadiness.

Small steps

Identify actions you can realistically take now.

Recurring patterns

Notice what may be keeping you in a familiar scenario.

Gentle change

Consider change without demanding that everything shift at once.

A next direction

Begin to see possible routes forward.

Mini-test · 2 minutes

What is your anti-goal?

Answer 8 questions to explore what may be keeping you stuck: safety, energy, control or certainty.

Your result

What may help

Your first small step

An anti-goal is not an enemy. It may be a way of protecting yourself. You can explore what it is trying to protect with care and curiosity.

Explore my anti-goal

Prices

Diagnostic session

Clarify the situation and identify a possible next step.

€50

Coaching session

Explore what feels stuck and find a way forward.

€100

Package of 4 sessions

Ongoing work towards clarity and sustainable movement.

€350

Prices are listed in euros.
Payment is also possible in national currencies at the exchange rate applicable on the day of payment.

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Client reviews

Real reflections following consultations, coaching sessions and work with the Anti-Goal Method.

“You helped me see a way out where I used to see only a wall.”

I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude for our coaching session. I felt that my situation was a complete dead end and that no solution existed. Thanks to your gentle approach, I was able to look at my thinking from a different angle, see the situation differently, and leave the session feeling relieved and with a clear action plan.

Marina

“It was deep work.”

Thank you for doing such deep work with me. I remembered a situation from my early childhood, but I did not know that an emotion had become attached to it. All the emotions that had been stuck in my subconscious seemed to come out like fire. Zulfiya, you are a professional.

Gulzat

“I felt lighter, more confident, and joyful about life.”

Many thanks to Zulfiya for the session. From the first minutes of our conversation, she made me feel at ease. The session was quick and productive. After some time, I began to feel lighter, more confident, and more joyful about life. It is so important to realise in time what needs to be changed, forgiven, and accepted. Zulfiya helped me understand this—and life began to look different.

Olga

“I understood why fear appears.”

You helped me experience emotions I had been holding inside for 23 years. I understood why I feel afraid when I think about my debts and want to give everything up. Zulfiya, you are a very strong coach.

Indira

“After working through the issue, I felt joy and lightness.”

Zulfiya gently and skilfully helped me identify the root of the problem. We were on the same wavelength, and resolving it felt easy. After working through it, the weight I had been carrying in my chest lifted. I felt joy and lightness and gained the insights I needed.

Nazgul

“After working through the issue, a new client reached out.”

Today, for the first time, I felt supported by my family lineage—it was amazing. I especially liked the original wording of the final step; every word resonated with me. After working through the issue, I checked my messages and saw an enquiry from a new client.

Yulia

“I understood how important it is to accept myself.”

I had a coaching session with Zulfiya. This was a new way of working with a coach for me, and I only fully understood the essence of the method at the end of the session. During the process, I had several important insights. It felt as though I was working with and on myself, while Zulfiya gently guided me in the right direction. It was a real “mind-blowing” experience. After the session, I understood how important it is to accept myself, understand myself, talk to myself, and thank myself. My work with myself continues, and I am grateful to Zulfiya for the work we did and for this new approach.

Almagul

“I saw the picture of my life I had been dreaming of.”

Zulfiya, I am so deeply grateful to you! I feel better today. Today, I finally saw the picture of the life I had been dreaming of. I know where I need to go—and that is already a big step towards my dream.

Kamilya